Oh, Mothers-in-Law! The bonus perk or nightmare that gets bestowed upon you as soon as you say I DO! Anyone who is married knows that these powerful women can single handedly turn your #goals relationship to one laden with fights over just about anything.
Thankfully, that is not always the case and If you play your cards right and follow these tried and tested steps, you just might start calling your mother-in-law #bff rather than always using the devil emoji to describe her to your friends!
1. Eat Up
Regardless of if you like her food, hate her food or find it to sit smack dab in the middle, just act like it is as good as that 5-Star restaurant down the street!
This is a small and pain-free way of showing your mother-in-law that you really do love all the effort she put into cooking for you.
If she isn’t much of a cook, treat her to a homemade meal- it doesn’t have to be fancy, just a simple pasta and good wine will do all the heavy lifting of impressing her on your behalf.
Not much of a chef yourself? Than just offer to clean up afterwards!
Go to Compliment: ” It means the world to me that you put so much time and effort into this meal for my partner and I”
2. Keep Up the Conversation
While your favorite soap-drama might tell you to give your mother-in-law dagger eyes the minute she walks it, it would be best if you skipped it, for obvious reasons.
Ditch the small talk and start to really get to know the person who helped raise up your partner!
Go to Compliment: ” I would love to know more about the women who is responsible for raising such an amazing person”
Word of caution, while it is always lovely to get a compliment or two do not smother your mother-in-law with exaggerated emotions! You will come off as disingenuous and quite clingy.
3. Dress The Part
Your clothing is the first impression your mother-in-law will have of you, even before you say a word and if she doesn’t like what she sees, no compliment will ever be good enough.
Style Tip: The cleavage can stay at home and wait for your girls trip on the weekend. Keep things simple, clean and understated with an accessory like a watch or a small pendant thrown in to finish your outfit.
Beauty Tip: Much like clothes, choose a makeup look that is uncomplicated. Natural eyeliner, rosy cheeks and a soft lip color are all you need. Remember that weekend girls trip? Leave the heavy contouring and highlighter for that too!
4. Include Her
The core reason that some mothers-in-law act passive aggressive towards their child’s significant other is that more often times than not, it symbolizes them not being AS important as they used to be.
Change that thinking and try to include your better half’s family into vacations, weekly dinners, birthday or just on random days! This will not only help you learn more about your new family but give an authentic impression of you wanting them to be a part of your life.
Remember that at the end of the day, relationships are forged over time and while these steps will give you a push in the right direction they are not meant to move mountains, either way, it never hurts to compliment someone– especially if it’s your mother-in-law!