One of the very first questions most ob-gyns and midwives are asked by couples who have conceived is whether they can continue to have a little fun in the bedroom while the mom-to-be is busy growing baby. Is it safe to have sex while pregnant? Will you both still enjoy? We take a look at this common question in a little more depth.
Can You Safely Have Sex During Pregnancy?
Yes, you most certainly can! A little hanky-panky in the bedroom can’t hurt the baby in any way. They’re safely surrounded by the amniotic sac, cervical mucus plug and the strong muscles of mama’s uterus, so even vigorous bedtime fun can’t put them at any risk provided you and your partner are free from any potential STDs. Typically, you’ll be able to enjoy yourselves together- albeit with a few modifications as mom gets bigger- right through to the moment her water breaks. Sex may even help to ward off some classic pregnancy issues like bad sleep, nausea and high blood pressure, if you get lucky.
Now’s the time for the usual common-sense disclaimer, of course- we’re talking about the majority of healthy, uncomplicated pregnancies where your medical team has cleared you for normal activities. If you’ve been advised that you could have a high-risk pregnancy, been confined to bed rest, have health issues or additional disabilities to work around, or have any other concerns then it’s always best to hold off a little and chat the matter over with your ob-gyn. Remember, they’re your first, best (and hopefully only) source of any and all medical advice relating to your specific needs, and they’re always happy to talk things over with you to help set your mind at rest. Your doctor will confirm, there are no stupid health questions- they’re always happy to advise and guide you at this special time. We are authorities on many things, but doctors we aren’t, after all!
Will Sex Trigger Labor?
No, orgasm and other sexual activities will not trigger labor, although you may experience a form of ‘false contraction’ that can feel like it.
Does Sex Feel Different During Pregnancy?
Yes, the many changes mom-to-be’s body is going through at this time will make sex feel a little different during pregnancy. Some find it even more pleasurable. Others may find that they experience more sensitive breasts, genitals or other developments that change how they feel about the act. You may also find her sex drive fluctuates high or low with hormone changes. It will be up to you as partners to find out what works better or worse for you. Do remember that there’s plenty of ways to enjoy physical intimacy as a couple together that don’t involve sex if the mood just doesn’t seem right.
Will My Partner Think I am Ugly While I am pregnant?
If you’re having a baby together, we hope you already know the answer to this one is No! Most men find their pregnant partners as desirable as ever. However, do bear in mind that your partner will also be feeling the stress and anxiety of impending parenthood, and may be afraid of hurting you or the baby. Open communication together is the best way to address any such concerns you may have.
Is X Safe During Pregnancy?
Hold up there, sailor! While we’re glad that you have an interesting, active and healthy sex life, it’s better to take any specific details you’re worried about to your medical team, who are familiar with your exact case and can best advise you. Remember that even the simplest things- like an outbreak of oral herpes- can change what’s hot and what’s not when having sex during pregnancy, so rather let the experts help out. Don’t be shy- they want you to have a healthy, happy pregnancy and remain strong as a couple, too (and they’ve heard it all before).
It’s perfectly possible to maintain a very healthy sex life during pregnancy, so don’t let fear or old wives tales hold you back. It is important, however, to keep your medical team in the loop at all times, and let them guide you as to the best way forward for a healthy pregnancy every step of the way.
Still curious? Here are a few well-respected links to help you find out more about sex during this special time: https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/pregnancy-and-baby/sex-in-pregnancy/  https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3080531/ https://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/pregnancy-week-by-week/in-depth/sex-during-pregnancy/art-20045318  https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3640505/  https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/321648.php